Why I Try To Be Kind To Atheists, Agnostics, etc.


I am not by nature a kind person.  I am sarcastic and often caustic to those around me, friend or foe.  There are many reasons for me to be more kind, partly because we are commanded to “love our enemies”, “do good to them who despitefully use you” and to “pay back evil with good.”  But if I try to do this in my own strength, I will fail, because I am weak.  I can do nothing without Christ (John 15:5).

I am now in a situation where I must trust Christ to work through me to do good to others, and that takes cooperation from me, because the Holy Spirit will not force these good acts upon me.  That brings me to my unbelieving friends, because I have to trust that God will be faithful to deliver these good works to them, despite the fact that they do not believe in Him.

Is it possible for the Holy Spirit to perform in this manner?  Yes, He is God.  Who could stop Him?  Does He want to deliver blessings for curses, through my cooperation?  Yes, He commanded us to bless them that curse us, etc.  Is the agnostic or atheist able to hedge against the kindness delivered by God or prevent reception of the blessing in any way?  No!  They do not acknowledge the existence of God, so how can they resist the actions of one who does not exist?  In order to do so, they would have to admit that there is a God and protest, “God is trying to make me look bad by giving me blessings I do not deserve!”  Don’t hold your breath for that to happen.

I think that many atheists/agnostics are not inclined to truly disbelieve in God as much as they really are “disappointed” by God or angry with God about something that has happened in their life, or they have other “God” issues.  It becomes a convenient mechanism to deny what they do not understand.  Well, I do not always understand God or his workings either.  I can light a match or curse the darkness.  I have decided to light the match of “God Enlightenment” to try to understand these mysteries of life, because “cursing the darkness” leaves me no viable or productive recourse.  And that brings me to the subject at hand….

Why should I hate someone who examines the same evidence and comes to a different conclusion?  Why heap another layer of grief on someone when they are suffering already?  I do not achieve any glory by doing evil to unbelievers, but I do please God by blessing them.  What to do?  Let me take a nanosecond to decide…I choose Christ’s way, again!  I know the history of religious people is littered with those who would kill others with opposing views, but isn’t hate and murder part of the province of The Evil One?  Why cater to him?  How would history be different if all religious people were more tolerant?

Kindness is a learned behavior, not innate at all.  We all must seek a higher power to be a consistently kind person.  This is where John 15:5 comes in again, for truly, we cannot practice consistently kind behavior without the power of the Holy Spirit.  Kindness will win the day for our Lord, not hate or retaliation.  Believer or not, the world will be a much better place if we all were more Christ-like in our actions.  And that is why I am kind to atheists and agnostics.

My prayer for all of us today is that we might know Christ better than to think that He wants us to hurt others!

13 thoughts on “Why I Try To Be Kind To Atheists, Agnostics, etc.

  1. Thank you dear brother Daryl for these wonderful words on how to respond to atheists and agnostics! You have truly captured the heart of Jesus in this matter. I love you and precious Joyce deeply! Your cousin…Ted

  2. I find those who I know who are atheists or agnostics feel that God has let them down. Something that they wanted, needed, or had to have was not given to them. I explain to them that God isn’t our fairy god father . . . but our loving heavenly Father who knows what is best for us. Their disappointments in God,are often over things that God never planned for them to have anyway, but they don’t understand this. I understand their disappointments as I too have had my share of them . . . but praise the Lord that I have found that His grace is sufficient to overcome my disappointments. ~ Blessings ~

    1. Thank-you. I know I can improve on the I John 4:7-8 thing! My human side is so critical. Not loving like Christ, at all. Thank you for commenting on my blog. I am enjoying yours!

  3. I just had a discussion this same topic yesterday with a friend who was experiencing some angst because his barber does not believe in God. His barber sees the violence in the world as evidence that there is no God. To which I said to my friend if you leave God out of the argument, How does the barber believe we can get people to be kinder and more tolerant of one another? I agree there is no reason to hate someone who arrives at a different conclusion. I also agree that being kind, learning to share, being tolerant of others who are different is learned behavior. If we do not teach it or exhibit it, we can not expect to see it in action around us. Thanks for the like of my post “Sweetness Check”.

  4. Daryl………..You have so many good points you bring here!………Be kind to your enemy……love those who hate you…….When you say why should you hate one that may come to a different conclusion than yours…..It is my earnest prayer Daryl that you don’t make a huge mistake I truly learned from forever thinking no matter what and how evil someone is in front of me just smile and say that’s o.k. So what I’m trying to say here is I learned this passage the hard way……But Praise God I learned it! and that was to KNOW WHEN to shake the dust off your feet if you speak the word and it’s falling on deaf ears,for even Jesus said:Whosoever will not receive you,when you go out of that city,shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them.(Luke 9:5).
    satan loves nothing more than to harrass a child of God which you Daryl are one of.
    God Bless You.
    Julia

    1. I do believe that, Julia. Thank you for expounding on it. I guess I was trying to say that I do not start with that position…I put my best foot forward and do not assume that if we disagree, we are enemies. That is why we have so many denominations today, because some could not walk together unless they totally agreed, even on doubtful disputations. But yes, I can shake the dust off my feet with the best of them. Thanks for commenting.

      1. Daryl….All this blogging is new to me so I’m sorry I am just returning….Good to hear you know how important the shaking off the dust is…………We are called to open the ears and eyes of people,but if they remain closed we find those that have a thirst for our Fathers will in their lives.God Bless You.Enjoy Your Day.
        Julia

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